How Do Ya Get the Girl? Topic of the Week
21 May
This is going to be a two part topic. This week: how to get the girl. And next week: how girls can get the guy. The weather is warming up so we figured there is no better time to start this discussion.
1. Ladies how do you like to be approached? What do you dislike? What are you looking for in a first impression?
2. Gentlemen what are your tactics for approaching a female? What has worked? What has bombed?
I really hope we can get a wicked discussion out of this….and GO!
Say hello to Maya Washington who shot this video with me on her birthday!
Viewer Response Video to this topic:
[..YouTube..] i think guys should be natural and not put up a front like they’re the sh!t nd all that! they should talk to girls like they are human beings….is that so much to ask for?lol be classy, funny, honest and polite. and be a MAN about it if a girl rejects you, dont throw a tantrum, or say some smart ass, rude comment – just to play it cool in front of your boys, just accept it and keep it MOVIN!
[..YouTube..] loli LOVE itand i LOVE you guysand your VIDS..
[..YouTube..] I agree w/andrea. A guy should approach a girl like he wants a guy to approach his own sister or mother. If a guy is respectful and can make me laugh, then I’ll be glad to talk to him. It’s the super aggressive guys that that won’t take no for an answer that irritate me the most, which sucks because they’re usually the ones that come and try to talk to me. I understand you’re being persistent, but it’s a lotta bit creepy to me lol
[..YouTube..] “ay shawty lemme get cho numbuhhh” <-i cant stand when guys throw that out…
[..YouTube..] As a guy I find it difficult to approach females who are attractive. I have been approached by females though. I find it easier for a woman to approach a man than it is for a man to approach a woman.
[..YouTube..] I hate guys that ignore the fact that I clearly stated that I have a bf. also If Im rushing to go some place and they walk full speed with me to talk to me… I can see and hear you and if I really wanted to give you my number I would spare 10secs to tell it to you than waste 5mins saying “Im kinda in a hurry” translation “leave me alone please” lol
[..YouTube..] great video. I also like smiling buttery energy!
[..YouTube..] I LOVE the curls everyone!
[..YouTube..] i hate when guys holla at me from there cars like im a hooker. PUHLEASEEE
[..YouTube..] YES !!! guys dnt get how uncomfortable that is ! especially at night, umm please don’t follow me up the street yelling “YO!” lol
i hate when guys call me in street by what im wearing like “ay shorty in the blue jeans” or “light skin” lol
also i work late sometimes so when im on the train lookin dead tired wit headphones i feel like guys should take that in consideration obviously if i got headfones on and almost falling asleep on the train then im not in the mood to socialize.
a good way to approach women comes down to your language you can tell what a guy is about if hes callin you sexy or you bad. i would be more open to a guy who comes up to me and says beautiful. and im wit andrea if i say i have a boyfriend i want a guy to respect that and not say stuff like i got a girlfriend so what you sayin lol
[..YouTube..] yessss! i definately agree with this it’s so true
guys nowadays don’t know how to approach girls. I agree with everything you guys said. Approach with a clever line not “yo ma you bad ass hell” *insert straight face*. I’m a little old school, tell me i am pretty/beautiful or something about me that attracted you over to me, crack a little joke, don’t come too close all in the face, be respectful and not too aggressive and please stop with the “you ugly anyway” or “i wasn’t tryna talk to you anyway” line if we end up rejecting you.
you guys should do a skit about that. what not to do when approaching a girl lol
[..YouTube..] a nice smile..sexy voice..or displaying your intelligence.
I just always feel weird when some random stranger approaches me with interest. The best scenarios for me are when I’m with my friends & the guy who interested shares a mutual friend so the situation is pretty easy & low key. In those cases, I know I may see him again & I can get a better feel of who he his before giving him the okay. I’ve had a few awkward phone convos with otherwise nice guys that ended up feeling so weird because our rapport wasn’t established just yet.
curly hair don’t care!! lol I like the music Shannon!
[..YouTube..] @Commonballapt2 Yeah, I agree. So when I approach you guys in the street don’t trip because i’m using your advice!!
[..YouTube..] “Psst….psst. Aye girl…aye!” As he stalks after me in the mall. I hate when dudes do this. Not only does it make me uncomfortable, but it gets the attention of everyone in the area. And, I’ve never had one decent sentence follow this introduction. So retire this please, it only works for R&B singers named Trey Songz. Other than that, I agree 100% with everything Andrea said. That’s probably the best way to approach any woman, with respect.
[..YouTube..] @ChicGenique OMG i know…talk about degradingi once had a car full of guys actually stop while i just happen to be standing on a corner in a tight little dress…i never felt so low in my life hahahha
[..YouTube..] @Livinlife4u555 yeh i had a similar experience but i was like 12 wen it happened…which is just wrong LOL
[..YouTube..] I agree with all of the things that you guys are saying but I also know that certain girls attract certain attention. A guy might not even approach you maturely and respectfully if he does not feel that you are thekind of chick that deserves that.
[..YouTube..] ya cuteh ya cuteh lmfao shannon’s a clown for the accent
[..YouTube..] uggh i hate those boys that are like yelling across the street like HEY MAMI! im like i aint ya mom so adioso loser
[..YouTube..] I love the way the sun shines on you Shannon!
i love how my face has a question mark throughout the entire vid. it’s as though i haven’t been in the game for over 6 years
[..YouTube..] IS shannon Jamaican too ?
I usually do this. “Hello, my name is Immanuel…” approach *extends arm for a soft handshake* Plain and simple.
It’s my first time stopping by your blog. Cool (AND VERY true) post.
Call me lame, but I’ve never actually flipped a casual street encounter into anything more than that. *shrug*
That being said, I do love the feeling of catching a well intended smile or glance from a woman (kind of named an album after it). Maybe I’ve compartmentalized and put those encounters on a pedestal and don’t want to mix them up with the awkwardness of actual ice-breaking. Plus, those moments can still be relatively innocent if I’m in a relationship (right…right?). Conversations of substance are my only approach. Hard to get into those while on a corner waiting for the light to change, but I’m sure there’s other dudes who have mastered it.
[..YouTube..] TRUTH! i hate it when guys think they can just get you by acting like they’re super confident and treating you like a dog
Im not gonna lie…I learned some stuff from this video and I’ve dated so many girls in my life I thought I knew it all LOL
Must be why I’m still dating…
Haddd to share this. So today im driving and i stop @ a red light. While at the red light i reply to a text message and a couple seconds later this 50 year old dude w/ lego blocks 4 teeth Pulls up beside me n leans out his window like ’scuse me baby no texting n drivin. Pull over im gonna need your name and number” Eeeeerkkks….! lets just say the light turned green right on tiiiiime!
Add “no corny ass pick up lines” and “make sure when you smile your teeth dont form the group jagged edges” to the list of donts.
[..YouTube..] guys are going to look at a woman’s body, human nature. women look at men too. and if you’re showing cleavage then people will definitely look, men AND women!!!
[..YouTube..] omgggggggggg all this is true. especially when you tell a guy you have a bf and they say “so he aint gotta know” or “so what does that have to do with me” its like what the heck.. what are you doing with your life ? haha love you guys.
[..YouTube..] I have a crush on Shannon
[..YouTube..] yeaa a dude shud def come correct with manners and sum charm, because i feel thats wut will get me to talk 2 u..
[..YouTube..] HOLLA~!!
[..YouTube..] That’s funny cuz I think I do this stuff already.
[..YouTube..] “Aye! Aye Girl!! Pssst Pssst” LoL
i agree with what the ladies are saying not so much the guy. I personally dont like to be approached by a guy who with a crowd of guys and I’m by myself and they just shouting out from across the street saying psh psh or whappen deh babes mi cya get yuh number and all coming up to me at once like your about to jump me or something. And another thing I seriously believe in a guy who has manners. As a west-indian I’m raised with manners and I come from a culture where its very important to have them so I expect you to have them.
Lastly dont like overly aggressive men. It intimidates the hell out of me and makes me uncomfortable. I’ve had men literally stop me on the street grabbing my hand and tings and I dont know you or your intentions so please dont do that. You have the win if you can come up to me respectfully like hey how you doing or whats your name and have a easy going conversation with me. It wouldnt hurt if you make me laugh either and if you ask you might just get it. Also not to judge by clothing but Im just saying look like you have something going on dont be on some corner hanging outside the shop drinking looking light u need to bathe, and calling after me. Not going to happen.
It’s always amazed me the way some guys talk to and approach women, and this is a big part of why it’s awful to witness, because it seems like they are stepping to girls like they are targets, something to be conquered. I find it really annoying overhearing the “psst” or any of the other tactics mentioned so far. Being confident is important, polite, funny must all be present if your goal is to see if a girl is interested in you and you her.
Being rejected happens to everyone so don’t take it personal, some guys can barely muster the courage to even utter a single word. I think if you can show some class and just appreciate the opportunity of speaking to a beautiful (polite) girl then that in itself is a victory all its own.
Now when you break the ice, making conversation and things fall into place it’s fun, it’s exciting and damn there’s nothing like having the eyes of someone you’re vibing with on you.
[..YouTube..] that denim vest is dope
[..YouTube..] You know what works for me? I walk up to a beautiful woman then say (B!tch) your breath stink and your ass should get with a real n!gga. haa
[..YouTube..] “What you’re man got to do with me”?
[..YouTube..] i love andrea’s impression of the quiet guy!!